5 Things Everyone Should Know About Supporting Survivors
Supporting survivors of sexual and domestic violence doesn’t require having all the right words or professional training. More often, it’s about how we show up, with empathy, respect, and a willingness to listen. Whether you’re a friend, family member, colleague, or community member, your response can make a meaningful difference.
Here are five things everyone should know:
1. Believe them.
When someone shares their experience, your first response matters. Believing survivors helps counter the doubt and fear they may already carry. You don’t need to investigate or question details. Simply listening and affirming their experience is powerful.
2. Let them lead.
Every survivor’s situation is different. What feels safe or right for one person may not be for another. Offer options, not pressure, and respect their choices, even if you don’t fully understand them. Regaining a sense of control is an important part of healing.
3. Focus on support, not solutions.
It’s natural to want to “fix” things, but survivors often need space to process rather than direction. Instead of giving advice, ask what support looks like for them. Sometimes, just being present is enough.
4. Be mindful of your words.
Avoid questions or comments that may unintentionally place blame, like “Why didn’t you leave?” or “What were you wearing?” Choose language that reinforces dignity and respect.
5. Connect them to resources.
You don’t have to have all the answers. Organizations like YWCA Northeast Kansas offer confidential, trauma-informed services including crisis support, advocacy, counseling, and shelter. Helping someone take that next step, if they’re ready, can be life changing.
Supporting survivors is not about being perfect, it’s about being present, compassionate, and informed. Together, we can create a community where survivors feel heard, believed, and supported every step of the way.
If you or someone you know has experienced sexual or domestic violence, support is available. You can call our 24/7, toll-free hotline at 1.888.822.2983 to connect with confidential support, resources, and advocacy.